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Girlfriend thinks I'm just being controlling…?
So I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 months. Things have been a bit rocky lately because she claims that I am getting controlling. But I feel like I have every right to be upset about some of the things she does and I ask her to not do these things. Here are some examples.
1. She wears a ring given to her by her ex-boyfriend. The ring has a heart gem on it.
2. She goes out drinking/clubbing with her girlfriends once a week. I am OK with that but she wears some real revealing clothing which kinda bothers me. Not to mention she drives home drunk which really pisses me off because I told her I hate people who do that.
3. She has 3 ex-boyfriends that are still close friends. She actually went to one of their houses and hung out for the night, alone.
4. She still has gifts and pictures of her ex-boyfriends around her room.
Yeah, so basically I told her that I am not cool with those things. #2 is the least important cuz I can live with it. Anyway, she tells me that I am being insecure and controlling and that if I really trust her that I will be OK with all that. And that those pictures/gifts are just memories and she doesn’t care about them anymore.
I told her that if she wants to have ex-boyfriends as friends that is OK but can’t she hang out with them at group functions and not alone? And I think its really disrespectful for her to wear that ring and keep gifts/pictures around her room if shes really over those guys.
Anyhow, I think I should just end things with her already.
What do you guys think? Is she being immature and rude or am I being too controlling and insecure?
I’ve been married for 17 years now and, I think your both wrong.
The ring she wears still is because she likes the stone. Not who or what it used to represent. This I’m certain of. It’s a woman thing, gems and jewelry. Even if it’s from an ex, if it’s pretty, we keep it and wear it, it’s just the way it goes for a lot of women.
As for being friends with the ex bf’s, get over it. She’s allowed to have had friends before you two started dating, and she’s allowed to have them now. This is where she’s getting the "your controlling me" thing from. Your basically telling her who she can and can not be friends with. Bad move on your part. It tells her, whether it’s true or not, that you do not trust her, and that’s just gonna serve to p*ss her off.
I can see why you don’t want her to hang out alone with any of them, that’s where she’s in the wrong. It not only pushes your buttons, but it looks bad to other people other than yourself.
She’s also wrong to keep pics and gifts of her ex boyfriends around. She wants to keep them then she really should pack the stuff away so your not reminded of them every time you walk into her room. THAT is the adult thing to do. If it were the other way around, and you had stuff and pics of your ex girlfriends around, I’m sure she’d have a lopsided fit over it.
You two need to sit down and have a long talk with each other about this before it ruins the relationship. If it hasn’t already. She’s being an immature brat, and you are being a *bit* controlling. Nothing over the top, yet. But it’s nothing that can’t be worked out if your both willing to be adults about the whole thing either. Just make sure you do not accuse her of being a child or a brat, you won’t get very far with that approach.
Good luck hon~
Miss Missy | Nov 21, 2009
Sounds like she’s a skank. Tell that hoe to change and respect you or drop her on her ass.
MooMix1 | Nov 21, 2009
been there done that….just end it
Dark Seeker | Nov 21, 2009
end it, seriously she isn’t worth it if she doesn’t care about what you feel.
lost in a little world | Nov 21, 2009
She’s full of crap, and so are you for putting up with it.
Time to move on before she kills someone with her car.
Involve the police in her little escapades.
KeithL | Nov 21, 2009
you are not being controlling, you care about your girlfriend, she’s just weird and immature, i wish my boyfriend was like you
kmed | Nov 21, 2009
well. do you TRUST her ?
if you do, then the pictures and her hanging with her ex shouldn’t bother you…
maybe she wears the ring because its pretty. oh i have an idea, why dont you go buy her a ring ><
& thers nothing wrong with being friends with ur ex’s.
& they are her ex’s for a reason … its because they werent meant to be.
staying friends is okay.
& since they are close friends theres nothing wrong with her putting pictures up.
i think you’re jealous and insecure and have trust issues.
watermelon | Nov 21, 2009
Yes. I agree with your decision. Imagine if you were to marry her and she goes hanging out with her guy friends. Vs you. What if you just hang out with exs and they did the same for you, would she be ok with that? It just a reason she will tell you when she dump you.
I would move on and let go.
*_- | Nov 21, 2009
Ah, DUH……I think you need to dump this chic since you are making a complete asshole of yourself!!!! She does not value you in any way, shape or form! Also, you have no right to try to change her…..period. This is how she is and if you cannot accept all of her flaws, then that is another reason to move on. How you can call this girl your "girlfriend" is beyond reasoning!!! I suggest you redefine the word "Girlfriend".
FlaChic | Nov 21, 2009
I dont think you re controlling. Its normal to be assertive and not accept every crap a partner throws at you.
I think that the number 1 depends (if shes over the ex, then i dont see a big deal if she wears the ring) cause i wear my ex’s ring too and i dont have any feelings for him anymore.
number 2, its ok to hang with her friends once in a while, as long as she’s not ignoring you all the time. girls need space, so do guys sometimes. Yes she shouldnt drive home drunk, its illegal and she could get in trouble
number 3, she can be friends with her exes as long as its only friendship. I dont see a big deal in it, but if shes hanging out with one of them alone at night, then its definitely not acceptable
number 4, its like number 1, if shes not into them anymore, its alright, some people re just too lazy to get rid of these things, and it may not mean anything. I know i do too.
Overall, some things re not acceptable, as ive laid it out to you. But if you feel this is a probem for you, and shes not willing to compromise at all, then by all means dump her and find someone you can be happier with, and who will do all you want.
goodluck
mea | Nov 21, 2009
I think you’re being controling. I mean, if there were signs of her cheating or something, then yeah, you have every right to be mad. Did you ever stop to think that make she really likes the ring? Or maybe she looks good in the pictures.
Girls are naturally possessive over their belongings, I keep all the gifts my exs gave me. And maybe she was good friends with the guys she dated, I’m friends with most of mine too.
Anyway, if shes not doing anyone harm by seeing and keeping her exs around, you’re just being paranoid.
I recommend you lay off until you have a real reason to be angry/possessive. (I.E. Her cheating on you.)
Don’t let your insecurities get in the way of loving her. If you don’t trust her, why are you with her? Without trust there is no love. Be affectionate instead of being insecure.
Best wishes,
JordanRae.
Jordan J | Nov 21, 2009
you have every right to feel that way.
I think its best you talk to her again. and really tell her it is important. if she still doesnt get it then I think she is either immature or doesnt feel for you the way you do towards her. so then based on that you can decide what to do.
hope this helps.
Globe_Trotter | Nov 21, 2009
shes being really immature! she should value the fact that you care for her and care for your relationship with her too, which obviously doesnt matter to her that much.
carlyanswers | Nov 21, 2009
Well, one of the things that concerns me is that #2 worries you the LEAST, when every time she drives home drunk she is endangering someone else’s life as well as her own. The rest of the things on your list are just suspicions/insecurities.
Dump her. Nothing on that list screams "cheater" except maybe #1 and possibly #3, and she’s probably not worth the stress.
Hmm? | Nov 21, 2009
Yea it sounds like a female friend I know. They wont tell there bf the real truth about wats going on with there ex’s but me being the female friend I get all the dirt. But every situation is different. I think if she respects you enough and want to be with you really, she should take the pics and gifts down and sell the ring, or give it away. You dont deserve to b in a relationship like that. If the tables were turned around she prolly will b so turned off she will kick u to the curb.
Victoria | Nov 21, 2009
i still wonder how most guys put up with these kind of behaviour …..anyway you have the right to make your own life miserable.
Coded_man | Nov 21, 2009
actually it’s only 3 months so it shouldn’t mean much if you leave her.. you can find some one better and special… and about her drinking and driving there’s always just dropping her off and picking her up (( that’s if you and her still stay together)) that would piss me off too.. but what ever makes you happy
Pig W | Nov 21, 2009
1. That is a very very strange thing to do, but tolerable I suppose if it looks some what decent but, Keeping gifts is one thing but still wearing the jewelery is a bit off, especially if its a heart gem thing.
2. Revealing clothing seems to be the trend now days, have you ever gone with her to these clubs? See how she behaves or dances etc. I don’t mean follow or anything I mean just go with her.
3. That’s fucked up, friends is fine but going over alone could have led to any number of situations
4. Having them out is still weird, she might have a thing still for one of them. The ones house she was at over night how much of these things have to do with him?
TBH! She doesn’t sound like she is very mature ha-ha, how old are both of you? It doesn’t sound like she is treating this like a very serious relationship if she wont sacrifice much
Nickoli | Nov 21, 2009
Dump her
A long term relationship is supposed to be a two-way thing and if she can’t do things for you like at least some reaffirmation, then she’s just not worth it.
Kensuke | Nov 21, 2009
Well, tbh, by your title I expected this to be controlling male attempting to rationalize his chauvinistic will upon a woman, but from what you’ve told, this woman doesn’t respect you, or herself much. If you care about her, and I think you do, let her know why it upsets you. Ask her if she would trust you in the same situations, and DEFINITELY keep her from driving drunk. I don’t need her stupid decisions killing MY girlfriend, or me. And no that’s not me being paranoid. I’m missing about eight people in my life thanks to some person thinking their convenience and ease of travel was more important than other commuters lives. No one else should have to suffer from that.
A. Nonymous | Nov 21, 2009
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